I met a lady who had been married for 3 years and worked in the IT sector in Chennai. It was a love marriage. In the initial days of her wedding, she was feeling the best of her love life. Her husband was caring and loving. Both were living their best moment in the relationship journey. But after three years of married life, she started complaining about everything. From morning to before bed, she was the unhappiest woman in the World. Her husband was very messy. Never cleaned the toilets or wash basin, and never kept cooking utensils properly. Never kept clothes in the right place. The maximum time is spent playing computer games. Even after the office forgot to hug her, he did what he had done earlier. Now, she has started believing that her husband has an affair with someone else. No matter how suddenly, a different kind of negative thoughts had arisen in her conscious mind, and they destroyed her peaceful, loving married life. She was now depressed, full of anxiety, and she raised immense anger issues over tiny things. She couldn't express her feelings to her in-laws and parents, so she began seeking an escape. Finally, she made a plan to take on work opportunities abroad, use her office support, and stay away from her husband by moving to another country. Later, she planned to get a divorce and live a happier life.

I listened to her every word with patience and showed my empathetic attitude with graceful attention.

Then, at the end, I asked her a very simple and straightforward question, "What do you truly want from your relationship?"

She mumbled and said she wanted the same relationship she had three years back.

I replied with a smile and asked, "Do you think the solution you sorted out would help you to get that?"

She said, "No."

I replied, "Then why are you thinking of escaping from the situation?"

She said, "I don't know what to do and amn't feeling ok to share all those things with my husband and in-laws, or parents."

I asked, "What is stopping you from sharing your feelings?"

She said, "I am not feeling comfortable discussing with anyone else, and it's better to leave the place to find out the rhythm of life again."

I asked, "What was your primary motive for getting married three years back?"

She responded that she wanted to lead a healthy family life and create a good harmony of love, care, and emotions.

I said that's wonderful, and I appreciate your thought process. But, if you fly away from your husband and family, do you think you would get all that you had thought of three years back?

She said, "No."

I asked, "Then why are you thinking this way?"

She said something deep inside that pushed her not to share with her husband and family.

I replied politely, "That's our negative emotions - unwanted expectations, and we have to overcome them anyhow. Once you did it, you could create an empire of good and healthy relationships."

She asked, "How?"

I replied, "Try to convey everything without hesitation with your husband first, then with family members. Whatever you are not comfortable with. Start using sticky paper to share your messages. Instead of expecting anything, focus on your work. Focus on your Body-Mind-Emotion activity regularly. Start giving love while talking. Don't compare anything that happened in the past. Sit with your husband and tell him what you like and what you don't. Unless you share, how could he understand? Focus on solutions, not problems."

She smiled and replied, "But I feel shy to express."

I responded with a smile that it is better to keep within everything and create anger, followed by anxiety and depression.

She nodded and thanked me for the one-hour one-on-one session.

At the end, I summarised everything and asked, "Do you think that the last hour we discussed, if you start following, would give you a better result than you decided?"

She nodded with a big smile and replied, "Yes. I never thought of this before. I will follow up and let you know soon with an all-in-detail update."

I smiled and replied, "Stay happy always! Be calm, be gentle, and smile always."

After almost 6 months, she called me and shared that she was happy like before, and she was pregnant. I congratulated her with immense blessings.

Before making any strong decisions, please consult someone you trust or meet with a counsellor to make an informed choice that leads to a happy outcome.